From Collapse to Clarity: Navigating Life’s Hardest Transitions

From Collapse to Clarity: Navigating Life’s Hardest Transitions

They say that shitty things happen in threes. The last two years have been harder than anything I’d ever known before.

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It started two years ago with a serious car accident that left me in hospital, my car written off — losing my dream car because I didn’t renew the comprehensive insurance in time (can you even believe that?). I was left with minor brain injuries, back issues, and whiplash. Headaches, migraines, and confusion lasted for months. It took at least a year for my health to recover.
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Six months after that, my long-term relationship ended. Boom—another big trauma to get through, having to stay strong while letting go of the love of my life, carrying the stress and pain of hoping I wouldn’t have regrets.
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Then, one year ago, I received the news that my mum had cancer, and we battled to save her. A few months ago, I lost the most precious thing—the literal source of my life. All of this compounded until I collapsed. The pain was so deep I couldn’t breathe properly; I literally felt like I was dying.
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I let myself feel so deep i couldnt function.
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After this experience, life became a funny thing. To actually let yourself feel instead of just keeping busy—oh boy, have I also been doing that. It’s been a mix of serving others, over-giving, making an impact through The Sanctuary which is my life, but also learning to stop, to receive, to feel, and actually to break down.
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See, breaking down in our society sounds like failure, doesn’t it? It sounds like I have mental issues and don’t have my shit together.
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But take a breathe, ponder: how do we come into this world? We literally have to break our skin open as women to create life. Sometimes life is so heartbreaking that we need to let the energy and emotions be felt deeply so that our hearts break back open.
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It’s an interesting dichotomy—I wouldn’t want to keep going through this amount of pain, but at the same time, it’s re-birthed me.
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At wharp speed ive recently decided: I’m now living part of the year overseas because I deeply feel that’s what the universe is calling me to do. I am evolving and changing my offerings with The Sanctuary. I am clear about what I desire in life, and no client or man who isn’t aligned will I work with or entertain even for one minute.
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I now see grief and pain as God’s wake-up call—an energy so profound, so fucking painful that it rips you apart.
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It rips your stagnancy apart; it rips away the mundane existence you won’t entertain anymore; it rips apart your bullshit as you see just how precious and quickly life can be taken; it rips apart procrastination and says who’s really living.
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It engulfs you so that when you finally allow it to be felt, you are never the same because you’ve felt deeper than ever before—and that depth is now a gift you hold, which benefits everyone you meet.
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I also can sense that “who am I to say that this shouldn’t have happened to me.” It’s very easy to go into victim mode… but something has given me this life, and I trust that whatever that is has the best in mind for my highest good. I surrender to my faith in the Creator and allow these things to make me stronger.
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But how can we even do that? Well, throughout this entire thing, I’ve always shown up for my daily practice. I mean, not straight after the car accident, but as soon as I could, I got back on my mat and kept my morning tantric routine and rituals. I know that this discipline and dedication has woven a strength in me (like train tracks).
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I’ve woven a pattern of resilience in my nervous system, in my muscles, my bones, every cell—that I will rise, I will transcend what life throws at me, even if I need to break down within that process.
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So I see you. Please let yourself break down, let yourself crack the fuck open. It’s not failure. It’s not weakness. It’s God. It’s life trying to move through you and call you back to the present moment, back to your heart, back to being alive like you were as a child.
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And don’t we all want to feel that aliveness, that raw love like when you first met a guy and fell in love?
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So scream, cry, yell, feel—and if you actually do deeply feel, I promise you that gifts and blessings will be bestowed upon you.
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1) She’s Unstoppable Women’s Retreat* on 6 Dec — the last one for 4 months! Link in commend to enrol.
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DM me to inquire. Sending lots of love
Alexis x

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