The Good Girl Is Crumbling

 

 

I was walking through my neighbourhood when I bumped into an old childhood friend. She told me that she had separated from her husband, and it really got me thinking about how many women I am seeing leave their marriages and relationships.

Around 70% of divorces are initiated by women, and we have to ask ourselves why.

There was a time when women often had to stay in marriages because they could not support themselves financially. Women did not have the same freedom to work, earn their own money, open a bank account or even vote.

But now women have more options, and we are starting to speak up at unprecedented levels.

 

The Good Girl is crumbling.

 

Our voices are becoming more activated than ever before.

I see this in my own life, in the lives of the women I have coached over the past decade, and throughout our society and social media.

For me personally, I had to realise how often I was not speaking up. I was fawning, freezing, people pleasing, putting on a smile and trying to keep the peace.

But I was keeping the peace at the expense of my own peace.

 

Can you relate?

 

That feeling of being bad or upsetting people kept me in a cage.

And it was not only affecting my confidence, mental health and energy. I could feel it affecting my physical health too. I was experiencing headaches and migraines, and my nervous system was constantly under stress.

When we live in environments where we do not feel safe, heard, loved or supported, our bodies can remain braced. We can become completely exhausted, and prolonged stress can deeply affect our physical and emotional wellbeing.

Women need to feel safe.

We need harmonious, loving and supportive environments in order to truly bloom.

 

So I want to ask you:

 

Where are you still people pleasing?

Where are you still being the Good Girl?

Where is the Good Girl completely fucking up your life?

You do not have to keep entertaining this.

You can start with baby steps.

Speak one need.

Hold one boundary.

Tell someone how you actually feel.

Stop saying yes when your whole body is saying no.

Begin stepping away from people and situations that repeatedly refuse to honour your needs, your boundaries and your truth.

 

Then watch what starts to rise.

 

Your health.

Your energy.

Your happiness.

Your confidence.

Your optimism.

Your bank account.

Your business.

Your magnetism.

Our naturally bright, radiant and magnetic nature starts to shine again when we stop changing ourselves to please everyone around us.

There is a part of us that might feel like the bad girl, the dark feminine, the naughty one or the rebel.

But maybe she was never bad.

Maybe she was simply free.

She is magnetic because she is not controlled by what everyone around her thinks. She is not constantly seeking approval. She is not becoming a chameleon or changing her truth to make other people comfortable.

 

She is simply herself.

 

And there is nothing more magnetic than a woman who is free to be fully herself.

Where has the Good Girl been keeping you small?

If you would love support to expand your magnetism, prosperity, business, health and radiance, I currently have one space opening in my private coaching program.

You can work with me for anywhere from one to six months.

Please WhatsApp us on 0423 611 704 with the word MAGNETIC. You will be added to the waitlist for a complimentary clarity call where we can explore where you are now, where you want to be and the type of support you require to make powerful leaps forward.

Alexis