How People Pleasing Is Holding Women Back From Their Power, Prosperity and Authentic Expression

 

 

Over the past month, the issue of people pleasing has been placed right in front of me.

I’ve been deeply immersed in my own women’s work with international teachers, and it has brought me so much clarity around the subtle ways women learn to abandon themselves to feel safe, accepted or loved.

So many of the women I coach have experienced this pattern—and it can cost us our health, energy, confidence, relationships, aligned clients, income and so much more.

 

What Does People Pleasing Look Like?

People pleasing is not always obvious. Sometimes, it looks like:

• Shrinking or altering yourself to make someone else feel more comfortable.
• Saying yes while your entire body is screaming no.
• Absorbing another person’s feelings and believing it is your responsibility to fix them.
• Putting on a bright, happy face when you would rather simply be your real, natural self.
• Agreeing with someone when you actually disagree.
• Making yourself quieter, smaller or more positive so you don’t upset anyone.
• Lowering your energy and joining in with negativity or complaining just to feel accepted.

Can you relate, sis?

I have lived through all of this too.

I believe most women have experienced people pleasing in one form or another. I have also reflected deeply on my dear mother, who passed away from cancer last year, and how much she may have carried emotionally throughout her life. While illness is complex and can never be attributed to one emotional pattern, her journey has made me think deeply about what can happen when women continually silence their needs, feelings and truth.

 

 

Where Does People Pleasing Begin?

 

People pleasing often begins during childhood.

Perhaps we felt we had to perform to receive love, attention or approval. Perhaps it didn’t feel safe to play freely, express ourselves or simply do what came naturally.

So, we learned to compensate.

We became the happy one, the helpful one, the responsible one, the successful one or the woman who never caused any trouble.

Eventually, that compensation became a mask—and the mask became such a familiar pattern that we didn’t even realise we were wearing it.

But underneath the people pleasing lies so much power.

There is energy, creativity, sensuality, truth, freedom and wildness waiting to be reclaimed.

 

Your Authenticity Is Your Magnetism

 

For me personally, whenever I reconnect with my authentic expression, everything begins to flow.

I attract more aligned clients, opportunities, connections and expansion because I am no longer using my energy to perform, prove, grasp or strive.

I am simply allowing myself to be seen as I truly am.

If you are a woman who deeply yearns to shine brightly, take up space, be seen, become known for your gifts and earn what you are truly worth, overcoming people pleasing is essential.

You cannot fully step into your next level while constantly editing yourself for the comfort of others.

Authenticity is one of the highest frequencies we can embody. When we allow our true selves to be seen, we become naturally magnetic—like a light shining its radiance on everyone it meets.

We no longer need to chase, force or convince.

We begin to attract from the truth of who we are.

 

Question of the Week

 

Where in your life are you altering yourself so other people will feel more comfortable?

Perhaps you change what you were going to say. Maybe you shift your energy, pretend to be more positive than you feel, make yourself smaller or join in with negativity so you can fit in.

Perhaps you agree when you actually disagree.

Take a moment to journal about this:

What would I say, choose or do differently if I no longer needed everyone else’s approval?

Your honest answer may reveal the exact place where your power is waiting to return.

 

 

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This intimate experience is designed to help you calm your nervous system, release people-pleasing patterns, reconnect with your authentic expression and step into greater confidence, radiance and abundance.

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