Know Your Values to Live a Successful Life

 

Let me take you back to where it all began. Picture this: 17-year-old me, proudly standing next to my first car—an absolute brown bomb that had definitely seen better days. My friends couldn’t stop laughing. “THAT’S what you bought?” they’d say between fits of giggles. But hey, it was MINE, paid for with my own hard-earned cash from weekend jobs, and it represented freedom.

 

Little did I know that brown bomb was the perfect metaphor for my journey ahead—not exactly what others expected, definitely not glamorous, but it would take me exactly where I needed to go.

 

#The “Sensible” Years

 

When high school ended, I found myself staring into the abyss of “what now?” Like many of us, I had no clue what I actually wanted to do with my life. So I did what seemed sensible—I studied commerce and marketing. It was practical. It would lead to a “real job.” My parents were thrilled.

 

Fast forward, and there I was, six years into corporate life. On paper, everything looked great. Steady paycheck? Check. Career progression? Check. Respectable job title that impressed people at parties? Double check.

 

But inside? I was dying a slow death by spreadsheet.

 

Every morning, I’d sit in traffic, staring at the back of someone else’s car, wondering, “Is this really it? Is this all there is?” The boredom was crushing. The frustration was constant. I felt completely lost in a life that looked successful but felt empty.

 

# The Turning Point

 

Then came the moment that changed everything. I finally admitted the truth: I was not happy. Not even close.

 

It sounds so simple now, but at the time, it felt like the scariest thing I’d ever done. Admitting I’d spent years building a life I didn’t actually want? Terrifying.

 

But that admission became my liberation. Once I said it out loud, I couldn’t un-know it. I couldn’t keep pretending. And that’s when I took my first real step toward something different—I enrolled in a full-time kinesiology course.

 

Friends thought I was having a quarter-life crisis. Maybe I was. But it was the healthiest crisis I could have had.

 

That year of study was like coming home to myself. For the first time, I was learning something that made my soul light up. I’d come home buzzing with excitement about muscle testing and energy systems instead of complaining about office politics and impossible deadlines.

 

# The World Becomes My Classroom

 

That first step into kinesiology was just the beginning. Over the next 15 years, my hunger for learning turned into a feast. I studied modality after modality, each one adding another dimension to my understanding of healing.

 

But the real magic happened when I started traveling. I realised that healing traditions weren’t just something you could learn from books or in sterile classrooms—they were living, breathing practices embedded in cultures.

 

So I went to the source.

 

In Bali, I learned about the beautiful integration of spiritual practice and daily life. Every morning offering placed with intention. Every interaction infused with presence. Incense burning non stop, prayers constantly being made in front of my eyes. I was in awe of their intentional living.

 

In India, I dove deep into ancient wisdom traditions that had been refined over thousands of years. The understanding of the body as an energy system wasn’t new there—it was fundamental.

 

Iran opened my eyes to one of the most ancient cultures on earth, with profound approaches to family connection and tradition. I was taken to many undercover parties. When it was someone birth day they all danced so lively and in the middle the birthday person danced with the knife between their teeth. It was enriching beyond words.

 

Indonesia taught me about community healing and the power of collective energy. God is at the forefront of their life, they are living in a constant gathering of heartfelt humbleness for family and the creator.

 

Each place changed me. Each tradition humbled me. I wasn’t just collecting techniques or leading retreats or classes—I was being transformed by them.

 

I started teaching what I’d learned, leading retreats that blended these diverse approaches. My brown bomb days were far behind me, but that same spirit of adventure carried me forward. I was still choosing paths that raised eyebrows, still following my curiosity rather than convention.

 

# What I’d Tell My Younger Self

 

Looking back on this 15-year journey from corporate cubicle to global healing work, there are three things I wish I could tell that younger version of myself—the one who was so afraid to step off the “sensible” path:

 

# 1. Your “wrong turns” are actually your greatest teachers

 

Those six years in corporate that felt like a waste? They weren’t. They taught me organisational skills, how to communicate with different personalities, and most importantly, they showed me what I DIDN’T want, which clarified what I DID want. Nothing was wasted. Even that brown bomb car taught me that beginnings don’t have to be perfect to get you somewhere amazing.

 

# 2. Your unique path IS your offering

 

For years, I worried about not specialising enough. I studied Kinesiology, then energy healing, then Yoga, NLP, Mind Detox Therapy, Parts Work, then trauma work… I feared being seen as unfocused or scattered. But I’ve realised that my unique value lies precisely in the diverse journey I’ve taken. The connections I can make between different healing traditions create something that couldn’t exist any other way. Your winding path isn’t a liability—it’s your greatest asset.

 

# 3. The world needs exactly what only you can offer

 

There were so many times I hesitated to put myself out there because I thought, “Who am I to do this? There are people who’ve been studying this tradition for decades.” But I’ve learned that what makes your work powerful isn’t just your technical expertise—it’s the unique lens of your experience. The healing I facilitate is powerful precisely because it comes through my particular journey, perspective, and energy. The same is true for you.

 

# The Journey Continues

 

Fifteen years in, and I’m still learning, still growing, still occasionally buying metaphorical brown bombs that make people laugh but get me where I need to go.

 

That’s the beauty of building an impact-led business—it’s never really finished. It evolves as you evolve. The work deepens as you deepen.

 

So if you’re just starting out, feeling lost in a career that looks good but feels wrong, or somewhere along your own winding path of purpose—take heart. The detours, the mistakes, the brown bombs of life—they’re all part of your unique medicine.

 

And trust me, somewhere out there, someone needs exactly the healing that only your particular journey can provide.

 

Your so called imperfections or failures are exactly what makes you so beautifully unique and deep. Someone who speaks from life’s pain, struggle, imperfections and unique journey – is someone people can truly feel and relate to.

 

If you may require 1:1 coaching support along your path, I provide one free clarity call per week, apply HERE and I’ll be in touch as soon as possible.

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Much Love
Alexis